Stop Thinking I’m Too Old Or It’s Too Late
Do you ever have thoughts of I’m too old or it’s too late in your life? I know I have. Those thoughts of, I shouldn’t have taken that job, I shouldn’t have majored in that in college, I should have finished college, I should have followed my instincts, I should have done – whatever that should is. You need to let those thoughts go.
Here’s a story (and some hard facts) that I hope will banish those too old or too late thoughts. A good or bad habit that I have is feeling the need to do one more thing. I never understood the reason why until I took a Strength Finders Assessment in the corporate world. One of my top five strengths is called Achiever. I’m hard wired to be driven. (If you want to discover your strengths, the Strength Finders book with the assessment is a great tool.)
An example of doing one more thing happened on a Saturday in April. We had had a spectacular spring. I told Robert that I wanted to go to the Missouri Botanical Garden to see the last of the spring flowers.
Robert and I are members there. I’ve heard the expression that the soul thrives on beauty. The Garden is truly a beautiful place that feeds my soul.
It was 4 o’clock in the afternoon and the Garden closed at 5. Always receptive (not always agreeing to my one more thing habit), Robert accepted my wish. We piled in the car and arrived at 4:15. Most people were leaving, so we had the pick of many parking spaces.
Walking through the entrance, we were greeted with a riot of color from azaleas lining the walking path to the right. To the left were a sea of daffodils and tulips in the colors of white, yellow, and salmon.
Except for this area, most of the tulips and daffodils were gone. That was until we walked to the vegetable area where they have other seasonal flowers. There on the right were giant tulips in an array of vibrant colors. The sign said.
These were the most striking tulips of all. They also bloomed when all of the other tulips died out.
Our culture is quick to promote beauty with youth. If you are a woman, there are very few advertisements with models in their 50’s or 60’s. I’m not even aware of beauty depicted over the age of 70.
Perhaps you’ve been at the hand of being downsized. When Robert lost his job at the age of 59, he wasn’t able to find another. He was told that he had, “too much experience,” for the position.
According to the Social Security Administration, a man reaching 65 today can expect to live, on average, until age 84.3. A woman turning 65 today can expect to live, on average, until age 86.6.
That’s roughly 20 years after “retirement” age. I am always fascinated when I look back 5 years, 10 years, how much has happened in my life. It’s amazing what can happen in increments of 5-10 years… a LOT!
I had the good fortune to meet broadcaster and author, Jane Pauley, and to see her speak. She was promoting her book, Your Life Calling – Reimagining the Rest of Your Life. It is full of inspiring stories of people in their 50’s and beyond doing just that.
Her stories were picked up by the Today Show, where she was originally launched into stardom in 1976. On her first day for the Your Life Calling series, her husband sent her flowers and a card which read, “Congratulations on your return to where it all began.”
Reflecting on this returning, she wrote in her book, “Coming full circle is very different from going back to square one.”
That is an extremely powerful statement. With age (hopefully) does come wisdom. All of our life experiences make us wiser and stronger.
If you don’t let go of “I’m too old” thinking, your life will pass you by with unfulfilled dreams and contributions. The world especially needs your experience and wisdom. By the way, thinking, “I’m too young” will also have the same effect.
I’m am embracing being a late tulip. :)
Of course, I can’t end this blog post without a few Bible verses that come to mind, one from the apostle Paul and the other from the prophet Jeremiah. One is to forget the past. The other is to embrace what is to come:
But this one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forth unto those things which are before, press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus. Philippians 3:13
For I know the plans I have for you, declares the LORD, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Jeremiah 29:11
May these words and tulips inspire you to stop thinking I’m too old or it’s too late. The only person standing in your way will be you.
If you have trouble silencing those thoughts of being too old or it’s too late, along with thoughts of not being enough, doubts, worry, or fears – you need to let them go. This Let it Go CD/MP3s can help. Download Track 5 from the Letting Go Meditation for FREE by clicking on the button below.
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