An Invitation to Turn the Pain of Loneliness Into Peace and Solitude of the Heart

Turn Your Pain of Loneliness Into Solitude

The Beatles stated it well, “Ah, look at all the lonely people.”

As human beings we will all feel lonely. Our world is filled with people, but we feel disconnected instead of connected.

A Disconnected Society

You click the garage door opener, pull your car in, close the door, then enter your house. You are surrounded by other homes, but don’t know any of your neighbors.

You take the subway. No one smiles. In fact, you make it a point not to make eye contact, making sure your money is safe in your purse or pocket.

Competition in Relationships

Relationships can be competitive instead of intimate.

Your suggestions are ignored in a business meeting.

You post a new profile picture on Facebook and get a couple of likes. A friend posts a new profile picture and gets 700 likes.

Loneliness is Painful

Loneliness is painful. No one wants to feel pain. We will almost always avoid pain at all costs.

When loneliness starts to creep in, there are endless distractions to avoid feeling the pain. You can physically numb the pain with alcohol, food, sex, or other drugs.

You can take your attention away from the pain by reading, spending time with social media, watching movies, playing video games, etc.

Loneliness is a Spiritual Invitation

Loneliness is an invitation to a deep spiritual place within you. It is a call to give up your numbing, give up your avoiding, and step into the solitude of the heart.

At the heart of loneliness is feeling alone or unlovable. But we are not alone. And we are not unlovable. We are loved.

You are Not Alone, You are Loved

The Apostle Paul wrote, “I am convinced that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor rulers, nor things present, nor things to come, nor powers, nor height, nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord.” Romans 8:39 (Uh, I don’t know about you, but that pretty much covers it all if you have any doubts about being loved by God.)

The Apostle John writes a heart-to-heart message and says in 1 John 4:19, “We love him because he first loved us.”

Leaving the Outside Noise for the Inward Solitude of the Heart

Having solitude of the heart is being able to leave the outside, material world. This is the world that tells you what you are supposed to be, do, and have in order to be happy and fulfilled.

When you turn your pain of loneliness into solitude, you cultivate love, compassion, and inner strength. Instead of clinging to others in your hunger for connection, you will create a safe distance to welcome others in.

When Jesus told his disciples he was leaving, he said, “The hour is coming, indeed it has come, when you will be scattered, each one to his home, and you will leave me alone. Yet I am not alone because the father is with me. I’ve said this to you, so that in me you may have peace. In the world you face persecution, but take courage; I’ve conquered the world!”

You can conquer your loneliness by finding solitude of the heart. God is waiting to hear your pain and open the sanctuary within you to experience peace, love and even joy.

When you feel this loneliness, retreat inward. Ask God to quiet your restless mind and soothe your aching heart. Let go of any past mistakes, guilt, blame, or other judgments that you heap on yourself to feel unlovable. Let God’s love fill your solitude and take away your loneliness.

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4 Responses to An Invitation to Turn the Pain of Loneliness Into Peace and Solitude of the Heart

  • Hi Sheila,
    Thank you for your vulnerability in sharing here. I know that you are not alone in your circumstances. I have several friends in similar situations. I know that the spiritual side of things only goes so far as you mention, missing, “someone holding your hand physically or talking to you in person.” After my divorce, I attended a workshop where one exercise was being in a circle as a group. We were blindfolded and stood face-to-face without seeing the person. The organizer gave instructions that we were to share something with that person. After, we were told to hug. I hadn’t been touched in several years. I burst out crying receiving that physical touch for the first time. So, I get it. My advice to you would be to find community – hopefully, a good church that feeds your soul, a woman’s book group, or some way to be engaged with others. When we lose someone we love, their presence leaves a hole. God gives us strength and love to go through our suffering. I firmly believe that God suffers with us.
    Peace to you,

  • Hi
    I have been trying for the past four and a half years to get over my depression and loneliness. There have been close family members and a husband dying and finally my mom in 2014. She was able to comfort me here where I now live without her. I know that God is always with us, however, you actually miss someone holding your hand physically or talking to you in person. I have no children, so that doesn’t help. I pray, praise God and read my bible everyday, but still find myself crying out to God to please direct my paths. I am 66 years old, and I think I want another husband, since mine has been gone three and a half years, but God hasn’t sent me anyone. I feel like I am going to go completely nuts sometimes around here. I am sure someone else is going through something similar. I will say though, I will not give up worshiping and thanking the Lord. If I do that I would be very unappreciative to all the other blessings he is giving me. I just miss my family, especially my mom. Maybe I am hurting so bad because I am an only child, I don’t know. God bless all of you Sheila

  • Hi Renee,
    I’m glad this could help and wishing you peace and lightness now and in the future.


  • Thank you. You have helped me through such a hard time.

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